Patricia Lynn Reilly knows a little something about the damage religious beliefs can cause, even with the best of intentions. Catholics told her non-Catholics were going to Hell, while Protestants told her Catholics were going to Hell.
It led to some awful times when her loved ones died:
Grandma Reilly loved Jesus and took Holy Communion every day of her life. Thus I was absolutely livid when the minister assumed he knew my grandmother’s eternal destiny. I argued with him, “My grandma loves Jesus. She’s going to heaven.” He argued right back, “No she isn’t unless she says the Sinner’s Prayer.” I continued, “She receives Jesus when she takes Holy Communion. That’s the same as praying.”
Later that summer, my grandmother died and we traveled to Connecticut to attend her funeral.
As I entered the Catholic church, the minister’s certainty about my grandmother’s eternal destiny collided with the nuns’ certainty that my mother, now a Protestant, was headed to hell.
I screamed when I saw Grandma in the casket and was inconsolable throughout her funeral. It was at Grandma’s funeral that I took my first steps on the journey that led me away from religion, its gods, and its fiery hell.
Several decades later, when I arrived at a Covenant [College] reunion, the current students were in the quad playing music and dancing. I asked one of my old profs if God had changed his mind about dancing. He chuckled, and responded, “I guess things do evolve.” And sadly, we’re left with the imprint of any number of now discarded “Thus saith the Lords” on our lives, bodies, and consciences.
Reilly isn’t religious anymore, and she’s taking part in a secular parenting panel discussion in Holland, Michigan this week. I’m glad that kind of event is taking place. The idea that you’ll be tortured for eternity is both traumatizing and untrue; for parents who genuinely believed that nonsense at one point, they would be doing their kids a huge service by helping them navigate the issue with a dose of critical thinking and methods to handle their friends of different faiths.
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