A PostSecret reader says he’s worried about what his wife will think of him on their wedding night because he’s a Christian:
I’m assuming that means he’s a virgin who fears he won’t know what to do in the bed. And he’s probably right. Until he knows and understands what his partner wants in bed, it’s virtually impossible to be “good” without any practice.
It’s all in his head.
I’m not being judgmental here, and I’m not mocking him, either. I’m just being honest. Most people are going to be bad at sex at first, and there’s a very obvious way to get better. If that’s not a priority for you, fine, go ahead and admit it. But it makes little sense to worry about something that’s entirely within your control.