Christian Writer Advises Women to Leave Porn-Viewing “Addict” Boyfriends February 7, 2015

Christian Writer Advises Women to Leave Porn-Viewing “Addict” Boyfriends

Kevin Kukla at prolife365.com has a very important message for women: if your boyfriend watches porn, he’s “addicted” and you should dump him as soon as possible.

Now this might seem like just another odious facet of fundamentalist Christianity’s repressive views on sexuality, but Kukla’s reasons are so compelling that he’s bound to sway people.

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Under his first point — that a porn-viewing man is “self-consumed” — he begins:

Face it. A man who views porn likely displays traits you would find undesirable.

Your porn-addicted boyfriend views women lustfully (including you).

Obviously, this is an appalling quality in a romantic partner. Lust might lead to unwholesome things, like enjoying sex, or having sex for purposes beyond procreation. (Goodness gracious!)

He continues,

Viewing porn causes humans to devalue one another. Specifically, in the case of a male, it causes him to reduce women to sexual objects for viewing pleasure. The waitress, the [bank] teller, and the grocery store cashier get rated in his mind. He checks them out, grades their breast size, and wonders what it would be like to get each of them to bed.

I hate to break it to Kukla, but people were perfectly capable of using their imaginations before the advent of photography and film. And, really, does he think that men who watch porn go around in a sex-crazed daze, incapable of meaningful interaction with members of the opposite sex?

Well, as it happens… yes. After noting that a “porn-addicted” boyfriend might be critical of his girlfriend’s appearance, he says

Your porn-addicted boyfriend may lock himself in social isolation. If you want a husband who can hold a conversation at a dinner party, then the porn addict is not going to make the grade. Porn, like any other addiction, causes social graces to slowly die away.

In place of communal interactions, the porn addict isolates himself in front of his laptop. He finds temporary excitement from the actresses on the porn sites. As a result, his ability to, and even his desire to plan a romantic dinner date with you decreases over time.

Porn-viewing men, in Kukla’s world, are just inarticulate basement dwellers (or soon will be).

As he outlines in his remaining points (equally as persuasive as the first), men who view porn are (potentially impotent) sex maniacs. When a woman marries such a man — the only time good Christians should be having sex — he won’t be satisfied with her and will be degrading and abusive in bed. And he might bring porn into the bedroom with them. (“Does such a man sound desirable?”)

Kukla sums it all up by encouraging women:

You should pray for him to change his ways, but still end the relationship. Maybe losing a good girl like you will be the impetus he needs to reorder his life…

Granted, if your boyfriend is an abusive hermit, separating is a good idea (regardless of whether he views porn). But Kukla’s case that viewing porn turns a man into this Mr. Hyde-esque monster is a reflection not of reality, but of the deep-rooted fundamentalist fear of human sexuality: any expression of it is to be feared and will necessarily lead to terrible, terrible things.

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