Former Westboro Baptist Church Member Lauren Drain’s Statement About Fred Phelps March 17, 2014

Former Westboro Baptist Church Member Lauren Drain’s Statement About Fred Phelps

Lauren Drain, a former Westboro Baptist Church member who wrote a book about her experiences, issued a statement on Facebook about how church founder Fred Phelps appears to be on the “edge of death“:

If the rumors are true regarding Fred Phelps, & I have strong reason to believe that they are — this news to me is incredibly devastating. When I was back in the church 8 years ago, I witnessed various members get ex-communicated & watched in horror & fear as families were ripped apart at the seams.

There was one summer, that I can draw upon perfectly clear as to the nature of the harshness & severity of our beliefs. Our very own pastor, who supposedly was guided by God & helped guide our ministry, his own membership was being called into question by the remaining members (most of which were his own sons, daughters & progeny). This notion devastated me & I remember as a church we became obsessed with hiding it from the media. I couldn’t realize why. To protect the reality that all humans, including a pastor could sin? To protect the fact that we as a church could possibly make a mistake? To protect our “name” to the world? It was hypocritical that we weren’t more focused on how to treat one another! How to forgive! How to leave God’s judgments in His hands! Did we really reach the point where we thought we owned salvation to discard people like trash? The pastor was forgiven that summer & I saw a glimmer of humility in his eyes that day, that all of us are human & subject to feeling vulnerable & hopeless.

It stopped me in my tracks from ever considering leaving myself, feeling family love & connection was something I felt was most precious in life, to my very core. Because of my non-compliance to church policy, which I witnessed change day to day, I became ex-communicated myself, cut off from my family that I held so dear.

I believe this church & many other churches start off right. I believe churches can & often do go terribly off track. The end result is so much confusion.

I consider myself one of the many victims of loss & confusion from the WBC. My dear family, whom I love so much, cannot & will not even recognize me as family because of the extreme beliefs propagated even until this day. I hope & pray that change can & will be the result of so many years of heartache & confusion. I pray that Pastor Phelps has a change of heart even if it is his last days. I pray that the remaining family members see what generations of judgment & banishment can do.

I pray that despite all the many families & people affected by the WBC, that they will not have vengeance in their heart, but rather pity.

I have great sadness for the ex-members & family members who despite all their differing circumstances, whether being banished or leaving by choice, are being restricted from making peace with the Pastor during his last moments.

As a nurse I can say that every man & woman deserves the right to make peace with themselves, their family & their God on their death bed. I wish for peace. I wish for change. I wish for families to be reunited in love.

Please help spread compassion & understanding despite the utter confusion in this situation.

Consider this, there are members still there, like my younger siblings, who can and will learn from experiencing compassion from others, not polarizing hate.

Prove the WBC wrong. We all seek peace not vengeance.

That last bit is about as compelling a reason as you’ll see for why picketing Fred Phelps’ eventual funeral is an awful idea. We don’t need to stoop to his level out of spite and anger.

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