In case you were looking for the worst review of 50 Shades of Grey ever written, I would read Jared Wilson‘s at The Gospel Coalition. All he does is reference a passage from a Christian book by Douglas Wilson about how “perverted” the whole idea of dominance and submission is:
Rachel Held Evans‘s jaw just dropped to the ground. She can’t believe how anyone could possibly write that:
… however we try, the sexual act cannot be made into an egalitarian pleasuring party. A man penetrates, conquers, colonizes, plants. A woman receives, surrenders, accepts. This is of course offensive to all egalitarians, and so our culture has rebelled against the concept of authority and submission in marriage. This means that we have sought to suppress the concepts of authority and submission as they relate to the marriage bed.
That Wilson blames egaliatarianism for the presence of rape and sexual violence in the world is ludicrous and unsubstantiated. His characterization of sex as an act of conquering and colonization is disturbing, and his notion that women are little more than the passive recipients of this colonization, who simply “accept” penetration, is as ignorant as it is degrading.
According to this post, sex is just another avenue through which a man must exert his authority over woman. As with everything else, the man is the boss and the woman is the subordinate. Wilson contrasts this “God-ordained” relationship of authority and submission to that of an “egalitarian pleasure party,” which I can only assume refers to a sexual relationship characterized by mutual pleasure, mutual authority, mutual submission, and mutual respect — which sounds a lot more desirable to me than being conquered and colonized.
We have plenty of problems in the atheist community but at least dictating what other peoples’ sex lives should be like isn’t one of them.