Usually, when we hear about Christian views on sexual “purity,” modesty, abstinence, and relationships, it’s associated with women.

But boys in Christian families are subject to it, too.
That’s why you need to read this post by Kylar D. at Recovering Grace. Check out how his father talked to him about sex and how it affected him:
… Dad wanted to know if I had ever had wrong thoughts about women. In truth, I had only just begun to find women attractive and was curious what they looked like naked, but it was a passing thought that I spent no time on. I had no idea what masturbation was, or that something like that was possible. I had been home-schooled and had had some friends of both genders, but sexuality had nothing to do with life at that point. I guiltily confessed to Dad that I had had some thoughts about girls without their clothes on. Dad seemed very concerned and wanted to know what I had pictured…
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… The longer the year went on the more hopeless and despicable I felt. Dad said I was listening to Satan and was playing right into his traps. He said that before I got married, I was going to have to confess to my future wife’s dad that I had had all these evil thoughts about women other than his daughter and that I would need to ask his forgiveness. He said I was going to have to do the same with my future wife. She probably would never want to marry me with such a perverse track record.
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When I was 13, I began to discover masturbation. It was alarming that something so pleasurable and so out-of-control could happen within my own body. I confessed to Dad what was going on, and he wanted to know all the details. He told me to keep him informed of what was happening because it was easy to fall away from God in that process. He was concerned and I was fearful.
When I was 14, I remember making a resolute decision that I could never get married. There was no way, I, as man who desired the best for the women in his life, could ever subject any poor girl to the perversion that I was. It might even be better for everyone in the world if I didn’t exist.
You want evidence of mental child abuse? There you go. What an awful adolescence to go through when your hormones are working at full speed and sexual thoughts begin to form in your mind, but you’re told that you have to suppress them lest you suffer a miserable life (and an even worse afterlife).
And I haven’t even mentioned the circumcision part yet…
After all that, it’s depressing (and very surprising) to see that Kylar is still a Christian. There’s some solace, though, knowing that he would never subject his own children to the same kind of brainwashing his father put him through.
(Thanks to Amanda for the link)
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