***Update***: It turns out Rev. Miller admitted to having a threesome with his wife and a church assistant. I don’t care what he does in his bedroom, but I don’t recall threesomes being endorsed by the Bible as a way to show love to your wife. (And people go to this guy to get marriage counseling…?)
Rev. Cedric Miller is telling church leaders at Living Word Christian Fellowship Church that they need to delete their Facebook accounts or resign from the church. And the rest of the church should just follow their lead:
“I’ve been in extended counseling with couples with marital problems because of Facebook for the last year and a half,” Miller said. “What happens is someone from yesterday surfaces, it leads to conversations and there have been physical meet-ups. The temptation is just too great.” While Miller has advised couples to give each other their Facebook passwords in the past, this is the first time he’s called for an outright ban. Of the 1,100 members of the Living Word congregation, Miller claims that 20 couples have approached him for counselling over Facebook-related marital woes. The married pastor also adds that he plans to practice what he preaches: this weekend, he’ll be cancelling his own account.
Yes, Facebook is the real problem… not the cheaters themselves.
I wonder what else Rev. Miller will force his staff members not to do next so that their marriages can stay sunny and rosy and wonderful…
- Don’t go out by yourself. (Single people are everywhere.)
- Don’t be in close proximity to another human (unless your spouse is right there with you).
- Don’t ever think about going on Craigslist.
- Don’t go on the Internet. Ever. At all.
- Don’t even bother turning on the computer. (Nothing good can come of that.)
- Don’t use iPhones because we know what you’re going to do with that camera feature…
- Don’t text message anyone. (Your inevitable sexting will make the Baby Jesus cry.)
- Don’t watch television because there may be salacious TV shows on the air. (Have you seen Bristol Palin dance?)
- Don’t call old friends. (Conversations lead to temptation, temptation leads to affairs, and affairs lead to atheism. Obviously.)
- Don’t go to church. (There are single parishioners and they desperately want a spouse.)
The whole premise of deleting your profile on a social networking site because you might get tempted by other people on it is silly. If your marriage can’t handle Facebook, maybe your marriage shouldn’t have happened in the first place.
I wanted to email Rev. Miller to get his thoughts on some of this but his website doesn’t even have a contact email address… This guy is not very tech savvy. Maybe that’s why he’s blaming technology for the failings of his congregation instead of the people who are going back on their wedding vows.
(Thanks to Erin for the link!)