The Top 10 Good Things About Being Godless

Phil Zuckerman is the author of Society Without God and the forthcoming book Faith No More: How and Why People Reject Religion.

He spoke at the Freedom From Religion Foundation‘s convention last November and a transcript of his talk is now available online in the most recent issue of Freethought Today.

In it, he listed (in no particular order) the Top 10 good things about being godless:

Secularity is on the rise in the U.S. and throughout much of the world.

Godless people and secular people are less sexist, less chauvinistic and much more supportive of women’s rights.

We are more tolerant and accepting of others not like us.

We are better educated and maybe even a little bit smarter.

The godless are less homophobic.

We are more moral and more ethical.

Atheists experience and enjoy more oral sex than religious people do.

We are better parents.

When there are a lot of us in one place or one nation or one state or one group, the result is societal success and well being.

We’re just better looking.

Obviously, some of those items are tongue-in-cheek, some are debatable, and some are very serious. Before commenting on any of them, check out how Zuckerman defends each item in the actual piece, since he goes into quite a bit of depth.

Alec

The top thing for me? No church. Thank FSM I don’t have to attend mass anymore.

I think the oral sex one is a bit “out of the blue”…
Anna

I’m excited about his new book! Society Without God was hands down the most fascinating book I read last year. Hemant, I think you should do a review of it sometime.
muggle

I’m with Alec. No more church and all the head trips that go with it.

The best thing about losing your religion is how utterly damned liberating it is!
hoverfrog

Havnig never been religious I can honestly say that I don’t knwo what I might have been missing and that I’m glad of it.
Killer_Bee

We are more moral and more ethical.

True, unfortunately. And, consequently, even more full of shit than the religious.

Atheists experience and enjoy more oral sex than religious people do.

Horseshit.
bigjohn756

Number 10 is obviously correct. After all, just look at me. I’m still waiting for #7 to come true.
Hugh Kramer

7. Atheists experience and enjoy more oral sex than religious people do.

Not according to what Ted Haggard’s wife says in her new tell-all book, “Why I Stayed.”
:^O
Trace

7 and 10, totally true! 😉
Jessica

Personally, I like the accountability that comes with being godless. If I don’t like gays, it’s because I don’t like gays, and not because God told me I don’t like gays. There is no passing the buck, and it makes me and only me responsible for my prejudices.

For the record, I like gays fine.
Alec

I’m going to have to agree with muggle and add to my top things.

I’ve been an atheist for about a year now, and I have to say, I’ve been 1000x happier than when I was religious. I don’t know if they’re related or not, but I think my atheism has *something* to do with it. I know it’s cheesy and clichéd, but I really feel free. I just love living with no religion. Sometimes I randomly smile and laugh to myself out of happiness and just overall enjoyment for leading an atheistic lifestyle. I feel incredibly free to think, to question, and to just enjoy my life and not worrying about pleasing an imaginary sky man.

Sorry if that doesn’t make a lot of sense, I’m walking my dog as I write this so I’m writing bits and pieces separately.
Shane

11. Guilt-free depraved, licentious, or deviant (but consensual) sex acts.

Bring me a case of Twinkies, one scuba-diving mask, one ninja outfit, two medium-sized potatoes, copious amounts of lube, a life-sized cutout of Hulk Hogan, and a condom. Better make that 2 condoms. Sexual partner: optional.
Jeff P

10. We’re just better looking.

11. and humble
J. J. Ramsey

I don’t really buy that being more moral is one of the benefits of godlessness. Arguably, a lot of the current crop of godless happen to be more moral, at least on certain issues, but that probably has more to do with historical contingencies than anything to do with godlessness per se.
The Godless Monster

Atheists experience and enjoy more oral sex than religious people do.

WRONG. Phil Zuckerman obviously has had no experience as a juvenile with Catholic high school girls. Oral sex was the number one way to have fun and maintain their virginity. I found Catholic girls to be absolutely wild. Uh, I mean, I HEARD that from some other guys…I was too busy praying and stuff.
Beth

@ The Godless Monster…that cracks me up. So the wild-Catholic-schoolgirl thing is actually true…Who would have thought?

I don’t know about the oral sex part, but what he talks about as far as religious versus secular teens is true. Religious teens that prize virginity still have the same amount of sex as secular teens, but they tend not to use condoms or birth control, resulting in lots of unintended pregnancies and STIs. Ick.

My favorite is the second one on the list. Misogyny was the main reason I left the church (refusal to listen to reason was a close second).
The Godless Monster

@Beth,
Yes, it’s all true and was even covered in this documentary film:
http://www.videosift.com/video/Catholic-High-School-Girls-in-Trouble
supercheetah

Well, on #10, the Catholics have Adriana Lima, which is hard to beat. We need to deconvert Lima so we don’t lose that argument, unless someone has a counter argument to her.
The Godless Monster

@muggle,
no problemo!
I’ve got no love for any of the Abrahamic cults, but I’m dong my best to change my outlook a little and frame it in my mind more as a war of ideas and not necessarily people. The key word is trying. So far, I’m still struggling with the overwhelming urge to….oh, never mind. I think you know what I mean 🙂
The Godless Monster

@supercheetah,

…unless someone has a counter argument to her.

Uh, yeah…my Tatar Russian atheist wife. Beyond smoking hot. And no, I’m not posting pics or links to pics.:-)
krissthesexyatheist

I agree with the last one.
Revyloution

Jeff P beat me with 11. Humble, so Ill add

12. We have better hats. Excluding Hoverfrog of course.

The Godless Monster, now I have the song ‘Catholic Girls’ by Frank Zappa running through my head.

Thanks! That’s an awesome song, much better than having Hannah Montana beats grinding through my synapses.
Revyloution

I just had to post the lyrics for anyone who might have missed it in their youth.

A festive cyo party with crepe paper streamers, contestants for the broom dance, the hokey pokey, baked goods, & father riley making sure the lights don’t go down too low…

Father riley and various party goers:
Catholic girls
With a tiny little mustache
Catholic girls
Do you know how they go?
Catholic girls
In the rectory basement
Father rileys a fairy
But it don’t bother mary
Catholic girls
At the cyo
Catholic girls
Do you know how they go?
Catholic girls
There can be no replacement
How do they go, after the show?

Joe:
All the way
That’s the way they go
Every day
And none of their mamas ever seem to know
Hip-hip-hooray
For all the class they show
There’s nothing like a catholic girl
At the cyo
When they learn to blow…

Father riley:
They’re learning to blow
All the catholic boys!

Mary:
Warren cuccurullo…

Father riley:
Catholic boys!

Mary:
Kinda young, kinda wow!

Father riley:
Catholic boys!

Mary:
Vinnie colaiuta…

Chorus:
Where are they now?
Did they all take the vow?

Father riley:
Catholic girls

Warren:
Carmenita scarfone!

Father riley:
Catholic girls

Officer butzis:
Hey! she gave me vd!

Father riley:
Catholic girls!

Warren:
Toni carbone!

Chorus:
With a tongue like a cow
She could make you go wow!

Joe:
Vd vowdy vootie
Right away
That’s the way they go
Every day
Whenever their mamas take them to a show
Matinee
Pass the popcorn please
There’s nothing like a catholic girl
With her hand in the box
When she’s on her knees

Larry:
She was on her knees,
My little catholic girl

Chorus:
In a little white dress
Catholic girls
They never confess
Catholic girls
I got one for a cousin
I love how they go
So send me a dozen
Catholic girls
Ooooooh!
Catholic girls
Ooooooh!
(etc.)

Central scrutinizer:
This is the central scrutinizer…
Joe had a girl friend named mary.
She used to go the church club every week.
Theyd meet each other there
Hold hands
And think pure thoughts
But one night at the social club meeting
Mary didn’t show up…
She was sucking cock backstage at the armory
In order to get a pass
To see some big rock group for free…
hoverfrog

On the oral sex thing I must say that atheists have greater empathy for their partner’s needs, adopt the moral principle of reciprocity and have no “authority” telling us which sex acts are bad. With some statistically expected anomalies such as Catholic school girls it stand to reason that we both give and receive more in the way of oral sex.

Why else would evolution have endowed me with a tongue?

Revyloution, don’t diss the pirate hat. It is magnificent.
UNRR

This post has been linked for the HOT5 Daily 3/19/2010, at The Unreligious Right
The Godless Monster

@Revyloution,
Guess what song was playing on my ‘puter while I was typing my first comment on this stream? heh, heh, heh…Zappa was an awesome human being.
cathy

I suspect that religious MEN receive oral sex at the same rate (or at similar rates) but in my experience, fundies get really worked up about sinfulness when it comes to eating pussy. And, sexist men are far less likely to reciprocate oral and fundamentalism really loves its sexism.
Angie

You forgot one!

11: Not having to live with the paralyzing fear of eternal damnation!
Brielle

Atheists experience and enjoy more oral sex than religious people do.

That should read…

Atheists experience and enjoy more oral sex than religious people do… Except for catholic priests.
Andrew

It’s impossible to be more moral than anyone since you decide your own morals. Morals are like an opinion. And as for #9 – U.S.S.R. Sadly as a religious person numbers 2,3, and 5 are true for a lot of people.
The Godless Monster

@Andrew,
You couldn’t be more wrong. Soviet and East European studies were my specialty back in the day. My wife was raised in the former Soviet Union. I’ve been there and am familiar with the different peoples and their cultures. Many folks were closet believers back then. It was a way of rebelling against the State. These folks were taught atheism, but they were never taught critical thinking skills. That’s the last thing that totalitarian governments and religious leaders want. A thinking flock is a flock that cannot be controlled.
Soviet citizens’ atheism was not based on logic or an understanding of the natural world. It was imposed on them from above. Few took atheism seriously, and many more were religious adherents to Soviet style communism. Look to modern Northern Europe for examples of secular societies.
TGM
Jeff P

GM says:

Soviet citizens’ atheism was not based on logic or an understanding of the natural world. … Few took atheism seriously

That was my experience as well from my time in Moscow in the mid 1980’s… at least from observing attendance at the various museums and monuments. About the only thing that brought a crowd was Lenin’s tomb. None of he locals seemed to care at all about any of the museums or monuments to any of the abstract causes (like atheism).
Beth

@ Andrew: I disagree. Morals often (though maybe not always) are tied to objective benefits to individuals and society. Things that are considered morally wrong by the vast majority of the population (such as murder) have an immediate negative outcome for somebody. It would be hard to argue that thinking murder is wrong is merely an opinion. While defining morality is by no means easy since it is not a solid thing, that doesn’t make it an opinion where either side is equally valid.

You’ve probably heard this hypothetical scenario: Hans’ wife is very sick, and the only pharmacist in town has a drug that may cure her. Knowing that the wife will die without the drug, Hans tries to buy it, but he cannot get enough money even after borrowing from friends. The pharmacist refuses to let Hans access the drug despite his promises to pay the pharmacist back as soon as he can. So Hans steals the drug to save his wife.

While there are opinions on which morals are the most pertinent in this scenario, the identification of the moral dilemmas tends to be pretty universal. Everyone can identify the “morally wrong” things here (theft and the pharmacist’s refusal to dispense drug even when promised payment). The only difference seems to be the debate over which act is the most morally reprehensible. So the ranking of morally unacceptable actions may be a matter of opinion, but the actions’ moral values seem to be easily recognizable by everyone.

Thoughts? I know I didn’t explain it perfectly; it’s a hard subject.
Joe Fogey

I don’t know if we enjoy more oral sex than believers, but I’m sure we enjoy oral sex (and every other kind) more than those poor guilt-ridden wretches.
Karen

I’ll have to take issue with the “better-looking” reason. Present company excluded, of course.

ahem.
Modern Girl

I disagree with #8, the better parents thing. Yes, among the fundamentals, there are higher incidents of child abuse, so that influences the average among ALL religious people.

But if you compare the moderately religious and the secular, I highly doubt you’d find a difference.

Overall, I’m not impressed with the list. Several things fit into the category of “being more tolerant” so it seems really repetitive.
Polly

“12. We have better hats.”

Yes. But. The Pope is surely giving us a run for our money.
hoverfrog

Polly, Benny the Poop’s hat is certainly impressive but he wears it as a badge of office and not as a fashion statement. It is more a crown that a piece of stylish headgear. Can you imagine him wearing his hat to the shops or the pub or going on the pull wearing it?

I don’t think so.
Polly

Can you imagine him wearing his hat to the shops or the pub or going on the pull wearing it?

I totally would.
Plus…a cane.
Andrew

@Godless Monster
Ok well if the government is atheist and those are the people in power making the life of the religious who were according to you were pretending to be atheist. Then there society is still worse off because of atheism and not religion.

@Beth
What you are calling morals are actually social norms. Morals is what I feel is the difference between right and wrong no one else’s. However in each society there are a set of rules unwritten or not called norms that apply to all the members of that society. You can violate a norm while still being morally responsible.
Andrew

Also has anyone noticed on this site there is a lot of complaining about how religious people try to change other’s beliefs? It seems after reading this blog for well over a year that you people are trying to do the exact same thing to the religious community. Maybe that isn’t true but as a non-atheist it sure comes off that way. I mean if you weren’t doing that why have bus campaigns or try to prove that there isn’t a god?