David Hayward (a.k.a. nakedpastor) has a list of 10 questions meant to be asked to Christians who want to find unity with others.
I think they could be asked to atheists as well:
- Do I truly believe that everyone has the right to their own beliefs or lack thereof?
- Can I respect the person, even though I may not respect their ideas?
- Do I have the capacity to recognize my own fallacies?
- Will it kill me if I were wrong?
- Am I able to hold what I believe is truth lightly in the interest of dialog?
- Can I overlook and maybe even appreciate the idiosyncrasies of others in order to hear what they have to say?
- Am I willing to discern the deeper currents rather than being distracted by the surface ripples?
- Can everyone play? In other words, will I not ostracize someone because of their beliefs or lack thereof?
- Is personal harm to others the only prohibition I am willing to make?
- Do I love all beings, and if not, am I willing?
How would you respond to them?
A couple other questions I’m curious about:
At what point is being right more important than being approachable/likable?
Is there any time it’s ok to cede “points” to the other person just to keep the relationship strong?