Is a Kiss Such a Bad Thing? June 11, 2008

Is a Kiss Such a Bad Thing?

By Guest Contributor
June 11, 2008

Here’s a Craigslist Missed Connection you don’t read everyday:

so sad you’re a christian… – w4m – 23 (the lab)

Reply to: pers-716341940@craigslist.org
Date: 2008-06-11, 2:49PM CDT

dear tyler,

it’s such a shame you’re a christian; i really, really want to make out with you.

Tyler: Good man for holding on to his principles or crazy man for not making out with *obviously* hot message writer?

I can understand abstinence. But is making out such a bad thing?

Then again, Hanna Rosin once wrote about Christy Ross, a Fundie Christian student who was waiting until marriage for her first kiss…


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  • Darryl

    Keeping in mind that this is all bullshit anyway, perhaps Tyler is a wise man that knows his weaknesses. Maybe girls can get hot and heavy and just turn off their lust like a switch, but boys find it more difficult to do. “Making out” sets a fellow on a path that good chaste Christians would describe as “making provision for the flesh.” Or, maybe Tyler is a prudish idiot that can rationalize this missed opportunity as the Devil tempting him.

  • I think we’ve all been there, having a crush on someone who is Christian; you ask them to go to happy hour with coworkers on Wednesday because you are secretely interested, and they can’t go, because they have bible study, and you are left wondering “do I go for it anyway?” I think the best advice is: yes. Worry about “are we compatible” after your tongue has been in the other person’s mouth, because really, if you are worrying about it before then, you are salting your own game.

  • SarahH

    The article you link to at the end scared the fuck out of me. I know homeschooled friends who are exactly the type to attend that college – brilliant, socially lop-sided and fiercely evangelical and conservative. The fact that this college grooms them for jobs in Washington is incredibly frightening, given that their top priority is saving souls and witnessing.

  • THz

    Maybe Tyler isn’t really “that” Christian, but just wasn’t attracted to her and came up with a new way of saying “no” without offending.

  • Darryl

    Maybe Tyler isn’t really “that” Christian, but just wasn’t attracted to her and came up with a new way of saying “no” without offending.

    What the . . ? That would be deception! That wreaks of the “Father of Lies!” Tyler would never do that!

    (Oh, wait . . . oh, okay, yeah, I see that, u huh, yeah, so like you’re saying that Tyler is human after all, hmm . . .)

  • In other news, a sigh is just a sigh.

  • But is making out such a bad thing?

    Well, no… if you’re the type who can walk into a coffee shop, smell the coffee, and walk right out without ordering any.

    Maybe Tyler isn’t really “that” Christian

    Ummm… I didn’t know that being Christian had a range. So, what is a “mild” Christian like? 😉

  • Jonsi

    Ummm… I didn’t know that being Christian had a range. So, what is a “mild” Christian like? 😉

    There are Christians who will date and marry atheists, and there are those who will say “I want you to take me home right now” on the 3rd date — but not because the 3rd date is the sex date — because religion comes up. I’ve always been told church girls have the craziest sex, but I’ve been told “you are going to hell” for every time someone called me God. It’s still worth it though.

  • Well, no… if you’re the type who can walk into a coffee shop, smell the coffee, and walk right out without ordering any.

    Incidentally, I am that type. Literally and figuratively. Actually, I guess I’d prefer to avoid the coffee shop altogether, because I hate the smell. I am probably overthinking this analogy. 🙂

  • Miller,

    I thought someone might respond that way. Perhaps it was a bad analogy. How about olive oil and garlic? You can’t smell garlic being sauteed in olive oil and not have some pasta (?) 🙂 Oh, I got it! Cookies! You can’t smell cookies being baked and not eat one when they’re out of the oven!

  • Scorpious

    Reminds me of a guy I saw on American Idol during the audition part of this past season. (It’s the best part of the season)

    He had around his neck a little lock and around his Dad’s neck was a key. The idea was that he wasn’t going to kiss a girl until the day he gets married. Yeah, I don’t know many females who wouldn’t want at least a kiss before their wedding day. Some females may wait until marriage for sex, but not even a kiss? Dude might as well become a monk.

  • Dude might as well become a monk.

    Good idea. Some girls dig a guy in robes.

  • Ada

    I don’t see the big deal. If a person wants to place a high value on the circumstances of their first kiss, what’s so bad about that? It doesn’t mean they think kissing is bad. It means they think kissing is really, really special.