Superstition Makes Her Paranoid

May I point out that statistically most women outlive men. Viewed in that light, what your psychic told you wasn’t necessarily bad news. It could be interpreted to mean that you will have a long and happy union with the man you love. And when he predeceases you — as most men do — you will once again find love. And, honey, from my perspective, that’s GOOD news.

She does have a good point with this last. Statistically women do outlive men. So, the psychic wasn’t saying anything unique or special. My grandmother lost her husband 17 years before she died. IF she wanted to remarry, she could have, esp since she died at 94. No telling who would have out lived who if she married someone with the vitality of George Burns.

So her first husband may live the average of about 79 years say. If she outlives him by 20 years, she could possibly live her last years with a second love. So if she would think of it that way, it’s really not bad at all. I’m with Abby on the last.

While my grandmother never remarried, some women do and they are very happy living with the memories of the late husband and making new memories with the second husband. It happens sometimes.

Trying to create a more favourable interpretation of the reading is the wrong approach. Don’t worry about it because it has no effect on reality. Just show her how any previously truthful predictions were simply the result of chance combined with techniques that take advantage of common human psychological biases.

P.S. If you don’t forward this comment to 12 people in the next 5 minutes, your spouse will die before you do.

It’s bothersome to see Abby give any credit to psychics and their ilk. No psychic is “remarkably accurate.” They all speak so vaguely and universally that the duped customer could potentially apply the “prophecy” to just about anything. People also tend to underestimate just how much a skilled observer can tell about them – as most of you here probably know, that’s called cold reading.

If I were an evil tarot (terror) card reader, I would recognize that within the framework of Christianity (as the bible says), the door to Heaven is very narrow and the door to Hell is very wide. If I sized the customer up as being religious (as most are who go see psychics) I could predict that her husband will be tortured for all eternity in Hell. Then she could spend her time worrying about the man she loves being eternally tortured and not worry so much about the slight statistical advantage that her husband will pass away first.

If she wasn’t religious, she would not worry about either tarot card predictions or eternal torturing and just concentrate on living her life with quality in the here and now. Eat well, exercise, reduce stress and you just might live a little longer and better.

While I might have prefferred a slam-down Abby’s intent might be more about offering some help the letter writer would be willing to accept. People generally aren’t willing to accept help when it makes them feel like an idiot.

And I think Abby’s right. Some palm readers aren’t charlatans. Some are skilled cold readers who are entertainers in the vein of magicians and don’t pretend otherwise.

Don’t discount all of metaphysics because of the floopy language.. there is quite likely some rational and/or scientific explanation going on in the background.

I know there’s a rational explanation going on – it’s already been mentioned here several times. A) Psychics/mystics read people, and b) they speak in vague and extremely general terms. “Your first husband will die” is hardly a good prophecy, because it has a decent chance of coming true either way; if a psychic told me on what day my spouse would die, or how, then I would be impressed when it came true.

That’s all there is to it. Readings that come true are coincidences, intentionally made more likely by dodgy language. I’m more than willing to discount pseudoscientific nonsense that says otherwise, along with whatever weird definition of “metaphysics” you’re using.

As for the other issue, every psychic and tarot reader has disclaimers that it’s all just for entertainment purposes. That’s how they shield themselves from liability. It’s hard to say how many of them actually take themselves seriously, but I honestly don’t care. There’s nothing illegal or harmful going on; my only point is that Abby is entirely wrong in her distinction. It’s all fake, whether the psychic/mystic says so or not.

gsb said,

If you are representing your readings as anything other than a parlour trick, yes, that makes you a charlatan.

I wholeheartedly disagree. My “readings” were often illuminating and helpful. One of my very best friends I met while doing readings for people at University. He eventually came to understand how I was able to do it but he always respected the value of my “ability.”

I never did it for money, but I really don’t see any problem at all with people making a living off of this, IF they are good at it. If a psychic atmosphere makes a person feel more comfortable (than say, talking to friends about their issues, or a therapist) then I don’t see the problem. Again, I’m making a distinction between entertainers (the frauds) and the intuitive/NLP/psychology/people reading/cold reading experts. The latter definitely exists, even if the former is more common.